Perhaps what we strive for is best understood through God’s description of the church, recorded by Paul in his first letter to the Corinthian church.

The way God designed our bodies is a model for understanding our lives together as a church: every part dependent on every other part, the parts we mention and the parts we don’t, the parts we see and the parts we don’t. If one part hurts, every other part is involved in the hurt, and in the healing. If one part flourishes, every other part enters into the exuberance. You are Christ’s body—that’s who you are! You must never forget this.  1 Cor 12:25-27 (The Message)

Paul goes on to call the Corinthian church to love each other, describing what love is in 1 Corinthians 13.  As a family, it’s what we’re striving for.